Let’s talk about the things every child needs to here…it’s important that you know your words matter!
Many of you already know about my book Teen Mom: You’re Stronger Than You Think. But the truth is that the advice that I give to teen moms is good for all moms … including myself! As I share these messages, I realize they are the same ones that I need to hear. Such as this message about how our words build our child’s identity.
How did your mother help mold your identity, both for the positive and for the negative? Through words.
Think about it. Now, how can you, as a mother, help your child mold his or her identity?
My mother said to me, “If you become a soldier, you’ll be a general; if you become a monk, you’ll end up as the Pope.” Instead, I became a painter and wound up as Picasso.
— Pablo Picasso, artist
Things Every Child Needs to Hear
- I love you.
- I’m so glad you came into my life. You have made it better.
- There is no one just like you. You are special.
- I adore your smile.
- You fill up a special place in my heart.
- My arms are always open to you.
- You are smart.
- You’re extremely huggable.
- I’ll always protect you.
- Don’t be afraid. I am here.
- You are my greatest treasure.
- If all the children in the world lined up, I would still choose you.
- Well done!
Things Every Young Mom Needs to Tell Herself
- I am a lovely person.
- I am unique and special.
- I’m doing my best to be a good mom.
- It’s okay for me to dream.
- All moms need a break.
- I don’t need to feel guilty when I take time for myself.
- My good example will make all the difference in the world and to my child.
- I become wise when I seek counsel from wise people.
- It’s good to hope for a better future for my child and myself.
- Truth is always the best choice.
- Life looks brighter when I focus on what’s really important.
- My habits will become my child’s habits, so I better choose good ones.
- What I have in the end will never mean as much as who I am.
- There is no greater feeling than when my heart is at peace.
- I don’t need to worry about the future. I just need strength for this moment.
- Well done!
Excerpt from Teen Mom: You’re Stronger Than You Think.
Your words change everything, your words that you speak to yourself and to your child matter!
About Teen Mom
Everything changes the day you discover you’re going to be a mom. It’s not just yourself that you think about—you have a child to care for, too. While you wouldn’t trade your child for the world, some days are just hard. Baby-daddy drama, dealing with your parents, and worries about school, work, and your future slam you. Your friends can’t relate to your little family, and you wonder if God has turned His back on you, too.
Tricia Goyer understands. A mom at age 17, Tricia remembers what it felt like to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. She’s also been the coordinator of a teen mom support group for over twelve years, and she’s cheered on many young moms—from all walks of life—through their journey.
In Teen Mom: You’re Stronger Than You Think, Tricia pours out her heart and shares advice for the hard things you face. She also longs to provide encouragement, reminding you that you can be the mom your child deserves—not in your own strength, but in the strength God provides.
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