Are you a runner? I sure am. No, I’m not talking about the type of runner who throws her legs over the side of the bed every morning, laces up her running shoes to dance a while on a concrete stage. I’m talking about the runners who flee when anything tough comes their way—escapees from their prison of pain.
The earliest memories of running bring me back to my childhood when my little brother accidentally stepped on my toe. That was all it took. I bolted out of our house, slamming our white aluminum screen door behind me as I ran down the street. I couldn’t bear to have my family watch me cry from the pain.
When I was enormously pregnant with my second child, I recall having an argument with my husband. In minutes I was out the door and in my car, and not long after that I found myself in the middle of a movie theater line with tears softly plopping into my bucket of buttered popcorn.
Over the years, I’ve learned to curb my running habit. No longer do I run out the front door every time I’m hurt. But, I have been known to walk to the other side of the house or scoot to the far side of the bed. It’s easy to let a five-minute argument blossom into a weekend event, isn’t it? Leaving the scene of the crime has never been helpful. It only prolongs the reconciliation process.
My husband and I are spiritual late-bloomers. When we became Christians, we learned for the first time that God’s word is the blueprint for a healthy and happy marriage. Marriage is God’s plan. He created it. So, who better to fix it when it’s broken?
I wouldn’t take my car problems to my hairstylist or my computer problems to my dentist. So, why was I taking my marriage problems to my single girlfriend, my unhappily married coworker, or Oprah (who’s never been married, by the way)?
I thought I’d share some quick fixes for a happy marriage from the One who designed it. I encourage you to memorize a few of these. They’ll come in handy, I promise.
I learned early on that running is unhealthy for a marriage. Throughout the years there will be times of disagreement and pain is sometimes inevitable. Fleeing from it isn’t always the best answer. Meeting it head-on is difficult, but so worth it.
It’s been a very long time since I’ve ran. My running shoes are packed up and put away. I’m not sure I could find them if I tried. Today I know the One who can make my marriage healthy and strong. And, until He calls me home, the only place I plan on running is into the open arms of my husband.
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