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Today Tricia shares 8 Scripture verses to bring rest to your spirit, plus enjoy the free printable.

Over the last few years, John and I have adopted seven kids. Seven times the amount of laundry. Seven more kids who need attention. Seven times the mess. (But sometimes the mess seems like 70×7!)

In my life, there is little time for rest. “Rest” to me means a Sunday afternoon rest, a cup of coffee and my Bible in the morning, or listening to soothing music as I make dinner.

Yet even in the midst of my busy life, there is always one place where I can find true rest—spirit rest—and that’s within the pages of my Bible. Rest is not only stillness of body, but it’s also stillness of spirit.

Moving seven new kids into our house means lots of challenges. Most of these kids come from foster care, and this means they come packed with a few suitcases and lots of trauma, heartache, and pain. Even more overwhelming than the busyness and mess are my anxious thoughts and worries about these kids who make me weary to the bone. It’s then that I turn to God’s Word and find joy, peace, and rest. There is nothing better to bring rest to my spirit.

Here are Scripture verses that I turn to bring rest to my spirit:

1. Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. (NIV)

2. Philippians 4:6

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. (NIV)

3. Matthew 6:34

Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. (NIV)

4. Psalm 4:8

In peace, I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, LORD, make me dwell in safety.

5. 1 Peter 5:7

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

6. Exodus 14:14

The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still.

7. Psalm 13:6

I will sing the LORD’s praise, for he has been good to me.

8. Psalm 116:7

Return to your rest, my soul, for the LORD has been good to you.

Do you need to bring rest for your spirit?

Read the Scriptures.

Turn to God’s Word.

Soak in His truth.

Lift your mind and heart to Him.

Takeaways:

Find peace for your soul by reading the Scriptures.
Discover rest for your spirit in the pages of God’s Word.
Let God’s truth rejuvenate your soul and bring you rest.
Experience renewal by soaking in the life-giving words of the Bible.
Lift your heart and mind to God through the power of His Word.

Enjoy this free printable PDF:

When you find rest inside you, it will impact your attitude toward everything around you. Even if the kids are screaming, the house is a mess, and the day is long, the rest of your soul will help you carry on.

What about you? What Scripture do you turn to when your soul needs rest?

Along with being in scripture, praying through the Bible is another way to grow closer in your relationship with the Lord.

Have you ever wanted to read through the Bible but found yourself giving up? Or even worse, you read the chapters and, in the end, question how they apply to your life. Tricia Goyer understands. For years she felt frustrated that she couldn’t stick to her commitment to reading God’s Word all the way through. Things changed when she found a doable plan and wrote a daily prayer. Tricia’s heart changed. Her life did, too. God can bring real transformation into your heart and life when you daily commit to reading your Bible and praying through God’s Word. Praying through the Bible in One Year offers a guided reading plan and a daily prayer starter to help you apply God’s Word to your life. Discover the inspiration for real-life transformation.

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Bonus:

If you’re a busy parent like Tricia, you know that life can get overwhelming at times. With ten kids, she’s no stranger to the challenges that come with parenting. But despite the chaos, Tricia has found a way to find true rest – and she wants to share her secrets with you!

In Heart Happy, Tricia shares her journey of finding rest amid a busy life. She shows you how to turn to God’s Word to find peace, joy, and comfort in the midst of your struggles. Whether you’re dealing with the challenges of parenthood, work, or just everyday life, Heart Happy will help you find the rest you need to keep going.

So why wait? Order your copy of Heart Happy today and start finding true rest in the midst of your busy life!

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These 7 Tips for Spending One-on-One Time With Your Kids can help strengthen your bond with your children no matter your family size. Give them a try today!

Spending One-on-One Time With Your Kids

John and I have ten kids, and that’s a lot! Often, it’s easy to see “the kids” as a group, but they are individuals. With each of them, there is a one-on-one relationship that needs to be fostered and nurtured. This is hard to do when we also have jobs, housework, homeschooling, and church and ministry activities, yet it is important.

More important than I sometimes remember.

Seven of our kids were adopted, and only one of those was an infant adoption, so the kids came with backgrounds of trauma which has led to all types of fun (not really) behavioral issues. I’ve gone to hundreds of hours of therapy with them over the last three years, as we work through trauma-based issues, and do you know what the #1 tool has been to fostering healing? One-on-one time with me –their mom. One-on-one time fosters bonding. One-on-one time helps regulate kids. In a world that is overwhelming and confusing one-on-one time helps kids find their foundation and their center.

So how is it possible?

1. Schedule it.

The first trick to one-on-one time is just to schedule it. One of the best ways is making dates to take our kids to lunch. We set the day, and they get to pick the place (within reason). We try to do these dates monthly. This means there is one day each month that our kids know they have our full and undivided attention. (Which also means keeping electronics and smartphones tucked away, especially mine!)

Of course, it doesn’t have to be lunch, I’ve created a free printable that you can use to schedule a special time with each child. They’ll have a ton of fun coming up with ideas for your time!

Also, Becky from YourModernFamily.com uses a unique way to schedule one-on-one time:

“Spending one-on-one time with each of the kids can be challenging because they each want our attention all of the time. I was talking about this with my dear friend, Kristy, and she told me a wonderful idea that we have since adopted and we now use every month:

Every month on our child’s “birth date”, they get to have “their night” (example: our first son was born on August 29th, so every month on the 29th is his night. Our second son was born on April 18th, so the 18th of every month is his night).”

I love that idea!

2. Connect in small increments.

When I was having big behavior issues with 2 ½-year-old Casey, the therapist asked me to spend 5 minutes a day of one-on-one time with him. The time had to be away from everyone else. He had to have my full attention, and I was to play what he wanted.

Casey and I had a special toy box just for this time with Legos, animals, and cars. As we played my job was to:

State what he was doing (“You are lining up the cars”)
Praise him (“Great job sharing with Mommy”)
Repeat his words (“The car is red”). This let Casey know I was focused and paying attention. It built a connection between us. And, amazingly, his behavior improved!

This has worked with old kids, too. I have one older girl who has struggled in our home. After years of trauma, followed by years in foster care, it’s hard for her to connect and feel loved. What was the therapist’s advice? 15 minutes of one-on-one time a day.

And, yes, it’s worked.

On days when I take the time to spend with her, her behavior improves immensely, and it’s only 15-minutes! (Okay, the truth is that we usually go longer because we’re having so much fun connecting.) Sometimes we just sit on my bed and talk. Other times we bake. And once she helped me open a stack of business mail, and we had fun reading letters and notes from my readers together.

When spending time together in small increments let your child know what to expect. “We will play with toys from this box,” or “We’ll have ten minutes to play today and another 10 minutes tomorrow.” Kids will usually want more options and more time, but letting them know ahead of time what to expect will help with expectations and transitions. (After all, what kid wants fun time with Mom to stop?!)

3. Add one-on-one time into “together” moments.

My three youngest kids share a bedroom, and they do the bedtime routine together. Yet as a mom I also want to connect with them individually at the end of their day.

Bella, Alyssa, and Casey are still all young enough to sit on my lap so they each get to pick out a short book, and they snuggle on my lap as I read it. Also, when it’s time for them to pray I sit by each child and rub (or scratch) their backs while they say their prayers. An added bonus is that they take their prayer time more seriously and don’t goof around much … but sometimes the prayers do stretch out a bit longer because they are enjoying the caress. Before I leave the room, I also tuck them in, snuggle them down and give more kisses and hugs.

4. Always say “yes.”

I’m honored when kids want to spend time with me. When they ask things like, “Mom, can we make some cookies?” or “Mom, do you want to play a game?” I try to always say yes. “Yes” doesn’t mean I stop what I’m doing, but I do take a moment and think through when I can spend time with them. I’ll tell them, “I can’t bake cookies now, but let’s do that after dinner.” Make sure if you give a time, you do your best to stick to it. Work hard to keep your word.

5. Ordinary events are great opportunities for spending one-on-one time with your kids.

If you’re going on an errand, choose one child to go with you. If you’re cleaning a closet ask for help. (You might be surprised that kids usually don’t mind rolling up their sleeves and offering a hand.) If you’re pairing socks make it a game, playing against each other. It’s these little things that will create positive memories for your kids. These ordinary events are great opportunities for spending one-on-one time with your kids.

6. Use the drive time to your advantage.

Parents are always shuttling kids around. Instead of allowing your child to use electronics to “tune out,” use that time to talk and connect.

7. Pay attention and heed the Holy Spirit.

When you get that feeling that one of your kids needs one-on-one time, don’t ignore it. Both Mama instincts and the Holy Spirit can help you discern which child needs you NOW. There are times when I glance at a child’s face and just know. It’s then I clear the calendar and spend time with that child. The best moments spent together are the ones when our kids need us most and we make ourselves available.