Finding Purpose Through Calendar White Space can change your life–and that of your family. Years ago, I sat down with my husband John and, with his help, cleared away the calendar clutter that was robbing me of peace and purpose. Today, we live very busy–yet structured–purpose-filled lives that give our family the time and space they need to feed their souls and feed into others as well. Let me share what helped us craft purpose through creating white space.
Finding Purpose Through Calendar White Space
Whenever one of our children is involved in an activity, we show up as a family to support them. This has included attending football games to watch our daughter in the marching band or going to statewide basketball games for our son. We want our children to know they are uniquely special and that their whole family is cheering them on. These priorities lead to habits that fostered a more focused and settled spirit as a family.
Even though we have a large family, we established patterns to our days and weeks. The time we spend together makes us closer. Our priorities guide us when it comes to knowing what to say yes to and what to say no to. They help us determine what’s best for all of us, not just for one person in the family. Our choices have directed us to a quieter life, even as we’ve continued to add to our family through adoption.
Finding Purpose Through Calendar White Space
Not long after John and I were married, we sat down and went through the calendar together. I was in tears. I felt scattered. There never seemed to be enough time to do the things that were important to me. As we went through the calendar clearing exercises, I came across a verse that confirmed we were on the right track. Ecclesiastes 4:6 says, “Better is a handful of quietness than two handfuls of toil and striving after the wind” (ESV ).
Clearing my calendar and establishing family priorities didn’t just bring calm to my day, it also brought peace to my soul, making room for God to work. As Colossians 3:15 says, “let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts.”
Finding Purpose Through Calendar White Space
Whenever I feel tempted to default and add on “just one more thing” I remind myself that adding more is just chasing the wind. As my soul is settled and I stop trying to prove myself, I start asking God to show me his heart, to direct my path, and to guide my steps. I tell him I want his purpose for my life — our lives, not just mine. And I’ve discovered God has been waiting for us to join his work all along.
Once I created white space and had a framework to guide family decisions, my mind became less cluttered, my day is less frantic, and my heart more open to God’s will.
If you enjoyed this post, you might like my book Walk It Out:
Walk It Out
Women often pack their lives with family, friends, and faithful service, yet still, end up feeling empty and unfulfilled. In Walk It Out, Tricia Goyer demonstrates to women that walking out the mandates of Scripture allows God to spark passion and mission within them.
Whether believers realize it or not, God intended for them to do what the Bible says: adopt the orphan, take the gospel into all the world, and care for the needy. These are mandates that point believers down the path of true living and eternal life.
Sometimes those steps are easy, but many times they require a move outside of what feels safe or secure. When women stop focusing on their own dreams and purposes and instead focus on God’s dreams and purposes, everything changes.
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