How to Ruin Your Teens for Life
1. Hide your past mistakes. Put on an act that you are perfect and your teenagers are the ones with all the problems. (After all, if your teens hear what you did in your past, they might want to follow.)
2. Don’t worry about where they are going and what they are doing. You didn’t want to be hounded at that age. You didn’t want to be asked all those questions. Instead, trust that they know how they should act and where they should go.
3. Don’t worry about them getting a summer job and having to work to make money. Teens are only teens once. They need time to have fun with friends and relax. There will be time to work later. They don’t need to worry about a work ethic now.
4. Don’t force them to attend church and youth group. Things are already touchy—you have to hound them about homework, about their friends, and about their clothes—don’t make church another thing you hound them about.
5. Don’t worry about talking to them about sex and purity. You’re their parent, for goodness sake. You don’t want to bring the subject up and have them thinking about you having sex. And you don’t want to think about them in their sexual lives. There are other people more knowledgeable and trained to talk to your teens; leave it to them.
6. Completely shelter your teens from the outside world. Make sure they don’t watch any secular movies or listen to any secular music. Hide the newspapers, too. Their “world” should only be about your family’s values. They don’t need to learn about all that bad stuff out there. They don’t need to make wise media choices or deal with unwholesome people. They don’t need to see that there’s a world out there that is greatly in need of Jesus. Let someone else deal with impacting and influencing culture.*
7. Tell them, “Do what I say, not what I do.” Make them accept the areas where you fall short, but expect them to do better.
8. Buy your teens whatever they ask for. That’s your role as a parent—to make your teens happy.
9. Don’t let your teen get involved in an overseas mission trip. There are all types of scary things that happen on those trips, and your first priority is to keep your teen safe.
10. Don’t become your teens’ sounding board. They’ll need to learn to figure things out on their own in the future, so they might as well start now.
11. Don’t share with your teen how important God is in your life. A personal relationship with God is personal, and it should stay that way.
Dear Heavenly Father,
Thank you for the opportunity to raise my teens and to impact the future generation. I pray that I would make the most of the opportunity and that my teens will become godly adults, courageous leaders, and Christians on fire for you.
In Jesus’ name, amen.
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Amy Bateman says
I love this post, especially because I get told on a regular basis that I’m ruining my kids’ lives.
Tricia Goyer says
Very funny…. I think so many parents have become softies and try to be friends with their teens instead of parenting them! I know people who do most of these things…. It’s a train wreck waiting to happen.
Tricia Goyer says
My mom tried to be my friend, and I took advantage of it! 🙂
Tina Bausinger says
I love this so much…so true! Thank you for the post.
Tricia Goyer says
Another great post and solid advice! Thanks!
We’re headed into that world in about three years – lots of great advice, thank you! I love the balance, too. I hear about Christian parents who safeguard their children to a fault. Another great resource in this vein is Grace-Based Parents. Such a great book that encourages christian parents to aspire for their children to be more than “safe.” 🙂