I get weepy every time I read the anniversary announcements in our community newspaper. You know the kind: Muriel and Melvin James married sixty years invite you to join them in their celebration of marriage.
I also love reading romantic stories from the post-WWII era. Stories of men and women who met after the war, were married three weeks later, and still light up when the other person walks into the room—even after all these years.
Today we would think a person is crazy to marry after only knowing someone for three weeks. Personally I think the difference is not the length of engagement, but the depth of commitment. If you talk to these long-married couples (as I have through interviewing veterans for my WWII novels), you discover they faced many of the same situations that break up couples today: financial problems, disagreements, incompatibility, challenges of raising a family and, yes, just plain unhappiness. Yet their commitment continued. Through the ins and outs, divorce wasn’t an option. In their minds, there was no easy way out. Instead of running away, they pushed through.
Have you asked for advice from seasoned married couples about commitment?
© Tricia Goyer author of Generation NeXt Marriage