Even if you feel as if God isn’t listening, I want to encourage you to keep praying for your future husband. Maybe you started praying in your teens and you’re in your 20s, 30s, or 40s now. Perhaps you’ve started to believe that your prayers are doing NOTHING. Sometimes it may seem like that’s true, but it’s not. Your prayers are working … but in ways you may not see for years and years to come. Let me encourage you today!
Keep Praying for Your Future Husband
Robin Jones Gunn and I wrote the book Praying for Your Future Husband a few years back, and one of our favorite things is receiving letters from women of all ages. Some of these letters include wedding photos! And many more of these women simply thank us for encouraging them on the journey.
With Valentines Day is approaching I wanted to speak to those who may still be feeling lonely. The holiday of red roses and boxes of chocolate can be one of the most difficult days for those who long for love. But, Dear One, find peace in this–God hasn’t forgotten you. He is holding your sweet heart in His tender hands and in the perfect time He will bring you the love you desire. Even if that time seems it will never come, don’t lose hope. Don’t despair in the wait.
If you’re still waiting … then keep praying! Here’s some encouragement for you to do just that:
Keep Praying for Your Future Husband
Robin:
Prayer is an extraordinary mystery.
This sacred privilege of communicating with our heavenly Father is more than a cozy, open invitation to come to Him anytime, anywhere. Even though His ears are open to the cries of His children 24/7, prayer is more than that. Prayer is also an act of obedience. We are exhorted to pray for others and to pray without ceasing.
Neither Tricia nor I pretend to have prayer all figured out. What we do know is that God hears. He sees. He knows. And He cares more than we can ever comprehend. And most important of all, God answers prayer.
Perhaps you’ve noticed that the way God answers prayers often isn’t what we expect. We look back years later and see that what God did was oh so much better than what we first envisioned when we sent our heartfelt requests heavenward. He created us, and He desires the best for us. God always gives His best to those who leave the outcomes with Him.
Another, even more amazing mystery is that, when we pray for someone else, we change. All of us were made to be loved, to give and to receive love.
When your heart connects through prayer to the One who is the source of true love, you’ll find that praying for your future husband will wondrously result in your heart being changed. And when your heart is changed, your life is transformed.
What sort of changes will God bring about in your future husband’s life as a result of your praying for him now? We don’t know.
As you pray for him, what sort of changes will God initiate in your heart? We don’t know that either.
But we do know one thing:
God proves to be good to the man who passionately waits, to the woman who diligently seeks. It’s a good thing to quietly hope, quietly hope for help from God. It’s a good thing when you’re young to stick it out through the hard times. When life is heavy and hard to take, go off by yourself. Enter the silence. Bow in prayer. Don’t ask questions: Wait for hope to appear (Lamentations 3:25-29, The Message).
Keep Praying for Your Future Husband
Tricia:
I love that last line: “Wait for hope to appear.” Isn’t that what you need most when you’re still praying for your future husband, especially when so many of your friends are married and have children?
Perhaps you’ve prayed and prayed, but God hasn’t answered. Your prayers seem like bulbs planted in a winter garden. Each time you check for results, all you see is barrenness, debris, and frost. You doubt the warmth of your faith when you first planted the prayers in a season of light and hope.
Patience, dear God Lover. Nothing is wrong with your prayers. Leave all of them safely hidden with the Lord. Hold fast to the hope that He has heard and is at work in the garden of your heart.
One bright spring morning you will be stunned when you see what God’s resurrection power has done with those requests you buried so long ago.
Keep Praying for Your Future Husband
What is it that the Lord is asking you to work on in your life during this season? Please don’t compromise your standards. Don’t start making excuses to justify why you’re settling for actions or relationships that you know in your heart aren’t what you want your life to be about.
How can you change that destructive behavior today? What are the new choices you need to start making?
Most importantly, be at peace. See this time as an opportunity for God to develop His patience in you. And don’t forget: Love is patient.
Will you get married one day? Statistics say that you will. We all know that staying married is a whole lot more important than just getting married. How you spend this stretch of waiting and allowing God to develop His patience in you will only benefit you during the difficult times that all married couples go through.
And just as there are two people in every marriage, there are two people who are learning patience as they wait for each other. If you’re having a hard time, your future husband most likely will, too. Your prayers will make a difference.
How do I pray for God to develop patience in my future husband?
Pray: He will turn to God and that God’s peace will help him to be inwardly calm and willing to wait.
He will have a quiet and steady faithfulness to God.
He’ll be content in every state he finds himself in.
Pray: His eyes will be focused on things to come, rather than things he wished he had now.
He will not push for answers before the time is right.
He’ll trust God’s sense of timing.
Pray: He will be reminded of all the times God has been patient with him and he waits with hope and expectancy.
Of course, as you pray these things for your future husband, be sure to pray the same for yourself. Patience is like holding a closed bud of promise in your hand. Imagine that closed, white rose in your mind. Consider allowing each petal to unfold slowly, in its own way. Can you see the beauty of each stage? Can you see God’s hand wrapped around yours, watching the unfolding with you?
Keep Praying for Your Future Husband
While we can’t guarantee every one of you will have that type of love story, there is another type we do believe will take place. Everyone, everywhere, can have a beautiful love story with her God. It begins the moment you look into His eyes, realize how much you are loved, and give your love and commitment in return.
While we cannot guarantee your prayers will lead you down the aisle to a waiting mate, we do know that every prayer whispered is precious to God. None of them are wasted. While we hope your prayers for the man of your dreams come true, we know that your prayers bring you closer to the God of your eternity. And seeing the love in His gaze is the most beautiful love story of all.
If you are to be committed to anything, be committed to preparing your heart for God’s — in this way — and in every other aspect of your life. The love you’ll experience will be life-changing, and the celebration in eternity is one to look forward to with all your heart.
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I’m not good with coming up with prayers. Do you have a good prayer i should be praying for a partner to share in my life. I am going to be 38 and still single and would love to have a boyfriend which would lead to husband and start a family some day. Please help me with this.
Thanks!
Hi, Nicole! I share your same concern about one day being finally able to find a good wife to form a family. Equally lonely for so many years wondering if I would ever marry at all and see my wife and my children. This has been my deepest desire for years and my main prayer request to God. I wish that God will answer your prayers soon. I will keep you in my prayers. Please, keep me in yours. It’s good to see that someone has also been persevering years to be able to one day have a good marriage. Is nice finding about someone who’s also been through the years trying to accomplish what seems to be impossible for some reason.
God bless you, Nicole!