Guest-blogging for me today is my former assistant Caitlin. Caitlin was my intern throughout the summer many years ago. You will be blessed as she talks about looking for my not-Prince Charming. Stay tuned at the end of her post for an update.
Hollywood didn’t create this problem. Think back through the thousands of books that have this underlying concept of marriage being the fix-all (even Homer wasn’t immune to it). Disney feeds it to us through animated movies and television shows. In fact, most movies drive this concept home, even if they have been dubbed “guy flicks.” Have you noticed that movies always end right after the “Just Married” car drives off into the sunset? Does life suddenly become perfect for the couple?
Make realistic expectations
Unfortunately, no. From what I’ve been told, life becomes harder after you’re married . . . but the rewards far outweigh the struggles, and marriage will give us a more complete picture of Christ’s love for the church. I think that while we wait for that special day we say, “I do,” we (whether we’re single or engaged) need to purge ourselves of this idea that marriage is the fix-all.
Proverbs 4:23 says, “Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.” We need to guard our hearts against unrealistic expectations—even if they are seemingly good expectations. To open your heart to fantasies about the perfect life with your Prince Charming is folly and might distract you from growing in your relationship both with your husband and with God; it might even take your focus off of God’s will for your life. All too often, God has different plans than ours but be assured that they are always better plans.
Looking for my not-Prince Charming