Two years after Rick Astley (one of my 80’s favs!) released Together Forever, John and I married. And it was then I promised, “until death do we part.” Of course, those were easy words to say as I stood there in my white dress with ruffled train and the flash of cameras brightened John’s smile even more (zing*) . . . but living out the ideal has challenged me more than I ever imagined.
While I wanted to believe (like Rick Astley sang) it was “something to last for all time.” As the years go by I’ve had to move beyond all my romantic notions concerning marriage, and I’ve had to work hard to make it last.
Like anything I’ve really wanted to succeed at, such as getting good grades in college, becoming a published author, or raising godly kids, I’ve had to put in the time to train myself to be successful. Hard work doesn’t sound romantic, but neither does going through a divorce, or trying to split our assets, or sharing the kids 50/50.
Jim Burns, author of Creating an Intimate Marriage, compares the work that goes into a healthy marriage as similar to training for a marathon.
Jim Burns, Creating an Intimate Marriage (Minneapolis, Minnesota: Bethany House Publishers, 2006), p. 51.
What are some ways that you maintain and prioritize a healthy relationship with your spouse?
© Tricia Goyer author of Generation NeXt Marriage