Want to make your marriage rock? Here are 12 ways to get started:
1. Send your husband off to work with a smile on his face. Have a good attitude. Pray for him. Talk about his upcoming day. Plant a good kiss on him before he leaves. Wave good-bye from the window.
2. Think of five things your husband would appreciate that day. Do them and see if he notices.
3. Greet your husband at the end of the day with a smile. (Even if you’ve had a rough day.) Make a point to welcome him. Kiss him good. Have some semblance of order in the first room he enters. Have the table set for dinner—even if you haven’t starting cooking yet.
4. Give your husband wind-down time as he first enters. Don’t start complaining about the kids just yet.
5. After dinner snuggle with your husband. Sit down with him. Ask about his day.
6. Listen to your husband’s work concerns. As the days pass, check in about these concerns.
7. Don’t talk bad about your hubby to friends. Praise him around others.
8. Meet his physical needs. (Yes, you know what this means!)
9. Encourage him. Tell him how sexy he is. He still thinks of himself as that high school jock. A few words of praise go a long way.
10. Call your husband on the phone during day. Tell him you’re thinking about him. (Email works too!)
11. Support his dreams. Ask about them. Encourage them.
12. Don’t put yourself down in front of him. Treat yourself like the princess he married. He doesn’t want to notice your flaws … so don’t point them out!
What do YOU do that makes YOUR marriage rock? I’m always looking for new ideas!
Jim Oberschmidt says
I guess men may not comment , but, it eems in this too busy world with both working, these steps are genius and could work both ways.
12.5 Pick one dream and share it , work it, and enjoy it 100% together.
Ronel Sidney says
Great!! I am going to work on doing this everyday even when I am exhausted and tired.
Lenore Buth at www.awomansview.typepad.com says
Great post–and true.
My husband and I married young, back in the days when they told brides, “Treat your husband like a king and he’ll treat you like a queen.”
Sorry if that offends anyone, but it’s true. I think we wives so easily get preoccupied with our children and other responsibilities that it’s easy to think our husbands can take care of themselves for awhile.
Often they will, especially the good ones. But I’ve found when I give my husband love and compliments and encouragement, I end up blessed and happier, too. It’s a win-win for sure.
Tamera Lynn Kraft says
I do all these things, and I’ll be celebrating my thirty-first wedding anniversary in January. Great list. We reap what we sow. If we treat our husbands right, they’ll treat us right.
Mrs. Querido says
Number 12 is one I never thought of before…thanks for the inspiration!
Oh Dear says
Love these! Thanks!
And I totally echo the point about kissing him–and kissing him good!
Do you ever notice how we stop kissing once we get married? Sometimes I wonder if it’s because we fear that if we kiss him, he’ll assume it’s going somewhere, but if we DON’T kiss, then we stop getting in the mood!
I’ve taken the 20 second challenge lately, and I love it! Make sure you kiss your husband for at least 20 seconds straight (when you’re not in bed) every day! And then see what a difference that makes in your marriage!
Thanks for the encouragement.
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Candace Sargent says
13. Set aside a date breakfast, date lunch or date night, and make sure you both treat it like a real date so FLIRT! Always come with interesting things to talk about, and never ever bring up issues.
14. Women love to savor every detail so save the long version for your girlfriends.
15. Few guys can resist a massage; it doesn’t have to be anything elaborate, even a quick shoulder massage is heaven.
16. No nagging; use positive requests, and only mention it a couple of times before asking a neighbor or friend to help, or hiring a handyman.
Tricia – thank you so much for this post! I am not married yet, but God is preparing me to be a wife. I absorb all of these posts like a sponge. Thank you again!