Have ya’ll read this article in Redbook about the over-sexualization of young girls? Very interesting.
I put the cute pair of jeans on my 10-month-old baby girl and realized something was wrong. They fit over the diaper but the legs were way too tight. It was only after I looked closer I realized I’d bought skinny jeans. Skinny jeans for a 10-month-old baby … SERIOUSLY!
I love having a baby girl again, but looking ahead I know the battle I’ll have to face concerning clothes and attitudes toward young girls. I remember bathing suit shopping with my middle schooler and finding only sexy bikinis. I remember Leslie summer clothes shopping during high school and both of us being so discouraged. The only shorts we found were short-short. The only tops showed more than they covered. So I have to ask, why? Why do we try to sexualize young girls?
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t think my daughters need to wear Amish dress and bonnets, but I do like for them to be girls. I hate the fact that retailers fill their shelves with clothing that’s more sexy than sweet. What to do?
1. Don’t cave. If it takes ordering a sensible bathing suit online do it. Even if your daughter wants to “look like the other girls” don’t give in.
2. Watch her media choices. I’ve been appalled how many “tween” shows have junior high kids kissings. And the problem is that kids younger than junior high watch and learn.
3. Don’t overdue “princess.” Dress up and movies are cute, but the “it’s all about me” fluff has got to go.
4. Talk to your daughter about how beautiful and special she is. Share how she’s created by God and precious in His sight. It’s not about our outward appearance, it’s about our heart.
Books I recommend:
Mrs. Rosey Posey and the Fine China Plate
How to Be God’s Little Princess (not yet released, but available for pre-order)
Also, if you have teen girls, check out Praying for My Future Husband that I co-wrote with Robin Gunn