It was harder, though, letting John lead me spiritually.
I knew then I needed to pray—and to keep my mouth shut. So I did. And things got better. When I stepped back, John stepped forward. He didn’t do things my way, but he was leading and we were drawing closer to God and each other.
Even today, there is a struggle, but I’m working at it. These are things that allow me to help my husband lead on a daily basis:
- Praying for God to give John wisdom and praying for my tender heart, so I’ll follow.
- Instead of giving my opinion, asking John for his advice. He’s a very smart guy when I take time to listen!
- Encouraging my husband when he’s making great choices. For example, when John suggested we read and pray together in the morning, I made sure I was ready and available to do that … even if kids were running around and dozens of other things needed to be done.
- Providing courage. I’ve learned the men in our lives are often afraid of failing, so it’s easier for them to do nothing than step out of their comfort zone. I try to let John know I’m willing to stick by him and to cheer him on. I also ask what I can to do support him, and I try to follow through.
It’s also a great example to our kids as they see me giving preference to my husband, and they see John loving and providing as only he can.
P.S. That little boy? Well, he’s grown now, too. And he’s leading his wife and baby son, just like he saw his daddy do.
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