Balanced | Tricia Goyer

Who is Dr. Magdalena Battles

Dr. Magdalena Battles has a Ph.D. in psychology, a master’s degree in professional counseling, and a Bachelor of Science degree in child psychology. Her post-graduate studies were completed at Harvard. She is a writer and conference speaker who specializes in parenting, child development, family relationships, domestic violence, and sexual assault. She shares her real-life experiences and professional insights on this website (Living Joy Daily) and on LifeHack.org, where she was named one of their top writers. She and her family enjoy camping in the RV and have visited 32 national parks so far. Magdalena is involved in her church and local community through Bible studies, book club, cheer coaching, and after-school programs. She and her husband reside in Texas where they are raising their three young children, a dog named Max, and a handful of silkie chickens. Hat obsessed, fascinator loving, and passionate about dressing nice without spending a fortune are some things you will find out about her on this blog. All of her blog postings are cross-posted in her very active Facebook group called Dr. Magdalena Battles; Living Joy Daily. Magdalena is the author of Let Them Play and 6 Hidden Behaviors that Destroy Families.

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Let’s Talk About Family Devotions and Truth-Telling!

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Let’s Talk About Family Devotions and Truth-Telling!

What do you think of when you hear the words: family devotions? If you’re new to my podcast or the Christian faith, you might have no idea what that means. Does it mean that family members spend time sharing about how much they are devoted to each other? If that were the case, my younger kids would either make it a joke or make it a fight. “I AM more devoted than you! No, I am!”

Or maybe you’ve been around church for a while, and you know that the term family devotions means that you should gather your kids together daily to read God’s Word—or a devotional book—and pray, but in reality, it just doesn’t happen. Life is busy, right? So for many years, whenever I heard the term “Family devotions,” I felt guilty. I never thought I was doing enough.

Yet, what is required? What is important?

As we’ll talk about on this podcast, parents are the primary spiritual influence on their children. What we do DOES make a difference, but before we jump into talking about being a faith-focused parent, or about family devotions, I want to talk about truth-telling. Mainly, I want to chat about our kids. How do they KNOW that the grace and sacrifice of Jesus are enough? More than anything, I want to focus on our kids, knowing that.

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Here’s an email that I received recently through my website. I’ve edited it down, and I won’t share any details, but I think the heart of this teen girl’s message is essential:

I’m a teenage girl who’s grown up in a Christian home, but I’ve never had a personal relationship with God myself. It’s not that I hate God; in fact, I want to know Him. But, almost a year ago, I just started feeling worried about not knowing God. Now I feel anxious all the time about not knowing God, and I want to get to know Him better and become a Christian, but I don’t know how … I keep on praying and telling God that I need Him, asking Him to help me, that I want Him to take away my sin, but nothing ever changes. I don’t know if I’m just not sincere enough? That I don’t fully understand how to come to faith? That I’m not truly sorry for my sin? The Bible says that only God can save us, not we ourselves, so how do I come to believe? Would you please pray for me and pray that God would work mightily in my life to bring me to Him?

My heart just broke when I read that. So this is what I wrote back:

Thank you so much for your message. I remember feeling the same way. However, there is a significant shift from “wanting to do the right thing and being a good Christian,” to truly understanding that God loves me completely.

The truth is that I felt like this for a very long time. For so, so long, I tried to make God happy and do everything right. It’s very, very hard. It wasn’t until the last seven years that I truly felt loved by God. I remember one day, after having a hard day with kids, I had a HUGE pile of laundry. I was overwhelmed and stressed out, and I felt like I wasn’t doing anything good enough. Then, at that moment in my laundry room, I felt God speak to my heart. “I love you just as much with this large pile of laundry and when you feel you’re not doing anything right.” That moment was the beginning of understanding how crazy God is about me. 

More than anything, a relationship with God takes faith. It’s trusting that from that, you’re already completely loved and accepted. I’m praying that God will speak to your heart. Maybe read through the Psalms and allow those words to speak to you? Know I’m praying too!

If you’re a parent, grandparent, or mentor, this note probably caused you to pause. I felt the same. Sometimes we are so diligent about teaching our kids about God that we forget to remind them how much God adores them. Also, we are good about teaching our kids about the rules, but sometimes we forget to share about grace. The good news is, no matter where you are or how old your kids are, TODAY is a day you can share the Good News of Jesus with them.

Today, I’m talking to Michael Kelley, the author of the family devotional book The Whole Story for the Whole Family. I LOVE this devotional, but I want to make sure to emphasize something Michael said as we chatted:

“Having a family devotion lays the groundwork so you can have more spontaneous conversations all throughout the day.”

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Friend, don’t feel guilty if you haven’t gathered your family around you to read God’s Word or a devotional in a while. Instead of feeling guilty, I hope you walk away from this podcast feeling inspired, knowing that whatever steps you take, you are leading and influencing your children in unique ways and wonderful ways. So don’t make this an item on your to-do list. Instead, ask God to help you lead your children to Him so that they may know Him, accept Him as Lord of their lives, and live in the confidence in their relationship with Him for all of their days.

I know you’re going to enjoy this podcast!

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Scripture to ponder

If you do not stand firm in your faith, then you will not stand at all. Isaiah 7:9

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Mentioned in This Episode

The Whole Story for the Whole Family | Michael Kelley
Deuteronomy 6:6-9

Who is Michael Kelley

Michael Kelley is a husband and father of three who lives in Nashville, Tennessee, where he serves as the Sr. Vice President of Church Ministries for LifeWay Christian Resources. He is also the author of Wednesdays Were Pretty Normal: A Boy, Cancer, and God, Boring: Finding an Extraordinary God in an Ordinary Life, and Growing Down.

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God’s Unique Plan for YOUR family!

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God’s Unique Plan for YOUR Family!

Are you willing to invest your life in the next generation? If you have kids or grandkids I know the answer is most likely, “Yes!” It’s easy to say that we want to invest in our families, but often we don’t know where to start. Desperate, we look for the right to-do list from a wonderful speaker, writer, or coach, but more often than no their list doesn’t work for our family. In fact, it simply makes us frustrated and overwhelmed!

Do you want to know why we have such a hard time following someone else’s list? It’s because God has a unique design for each family. What He has called your family to is different than what He’s called our family to.

Currently, I’m doing an online parenting class with my friend, and New York Times Bestselling Author Ken Blanchard. Ken is an expert on management, and he’s helped me as a mom to focus on leading my family well. Being a family leader is based on investment and discipleship. And just like leaders of companies guide their workers, we must do the same with our families. If we do not invest in and disciple our children then the world around them will be quick to jump in and take over our job. If we don’t direct our kids, they will choose others to follow, and where will they end up? In chaos.

Proverbs 29:18 talks about this very thing. It says, “Where there is no vision, the people are unrestrained.”

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We need to give our families direction. It’s necessary for them to have a vision for the future so they will know where they’re headed.

Still, it’s hard to know what to do, especially what to focus on. The best way to gain vision is to figure out these three elements:

  1. Our purpose as a family
  2. Our values as a family
  3. Our picture of the future for our family.

What is your purpose? What are your values? What is the picture for your future?

I recommend that you sit down and write out your thoughts about these areas. For the Goyers, this is what resonates with us:

  • to serve God
  • to serve others
  • to grow hearts for ministry
  • to use our unique, God-given talents
  • to be authentic in our relationships with others and with God
  • to know we have a purpose in the world
  • to live our purpose so that God will be glorified

Putting it all together, here is our family mission statement:

We strive to be a family that serves God by serving others. Together we will grow hearts for ministry, using our unique, God-given talents. We will be authentic in our relationships with others and with God. We trust that we have a purpose in the world, and we will live our purpose so that God will be glorified through our lives and work.

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Having a mission statement guides us to know what to say no to and what to say yes to. We focus on serving together and spending time developing authentic relationships. Because of this, we say no to a lot of outside activities. Knowing our family mission helps to take away the guide of saying no to too many sports, groups, or events. We know that by saying no to these things, we are saying yes to God’s bigger picture for us.

To live our family’s purpose we’ve chosen to homeschool. Today my guest, Leslie Nunnery, and I will be talking about our call to teach our children at home and how doing so has helped us to disciple and invest in our kids. If you homeschool, are interested in homeschooling, or simply want to know more about it, listen in. If you’re been thinking about homeschooling, but have been fearful to take the plunge, I think you’ll be encouraged. Also, know that 99% of all people say, “I don’t have it in me to homeschool.” Yes, we all feel that way! Thankfully, God has shown us that where we are weak, He is strong.

Homeschooling is a step of obedience.
Homeschooling is an investment in the next generation.
Homeschooling is discipleship, training our children to follow God.
Homeschooling isn’t just about what God wants to do with our kids, it’s also about what He wants to do with us.

If you’re ready to be inspired as a leader and a parent, listen in!

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Scripture to ponder

Where there is no vision, the people are unrestrained. Proverbs 29:18

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Teach Them Diligently
Teach Them Diligently 365 Membership

Meet me at the Teach Them Diligently Conferences

Teach Them Diligently Round Rock, TX
Teach Them Diligently Pigeon Forge, TN

Books to Read

Lead Your Family Like Jesus

Who is Leslie Nunnery

Leslie Nunnery is the co-founder of Teach Them Diligently Convention along with her husband David and the mother of four children who range in age from 14-21.  God has given her a strong burden to minister to Christian families to help support, encourage and equip them to disciple their children, protect their marriages, and serve God in the ways He has planned for them. She is an advocate of home education with a strong focus on discipleship which is evidenced in her writings and the events her family produces. Leslie is the author of a discipleship-focused parenting book called Teach Them Diligently, Raising Children of Promise and Heart School, a 15-lesson class in which Leslie helps families learn to disciple their children through home education. She is also heavily involved in mission endeavors through Worldwide Tentmakers, for which her husband serves as president and Teach Them Diligently supports.

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Everything You Need to Know About Leading Others (and Homeschooling!)

Everything You Need to Know About Leading Others (and Homeschooling!)

Lea Ann Garfias and I have been homeschooling moms for a very long time, but even if you have little or no interest in homeschooling, my desire is that every listener will have something he or she can take away from this episode. You see, it’s impossible to be a homeschool teacher unless we are schooled by God. I can do 100 things to prepare myself for my day (including my homeschooling day!), but nothing is more effective than preparing my heart.
Anytime we long to lead and influence others, it’s important to know we’re leading them in the right direction. I was reminded of this just this morning as I came across Isaiah 2:3, “Come, let us go up to the mountain of the Lord, to the house of the God of Jacob. He will teach us about His ways so we may walk in his paths.
As I read this verse, I wrote down these notes:
God = present to teach us
Me = go to Him, seek His presence and His ways = Benefit from His paths
God’s presence is good, paved in love, and will lead us in the right direction.
The “us” here is ourselves and whoever we are leading. Perhaps you are leading co-workers. Some may be leading fellow Christ-followers in church, through service. And if you are a parent, you are leading your kids.
Every day, I wake up overwhelmed and wound up by all that needs to be accomplished. Can you relate? It’s only as I sit before God, in the quiet of the early morning before anyone else is awake, that my heart calms and my mind stills. This happens as I allow God to teach me and lead me on His paths.
Of course, like anything else important, my “morning time” didn’t just happen. Instead, about 25 years ago I decided to make Bible reading and prayer a priority. Desiring to be a writer, I started getting up before my kids to write. Then, a few days into my new routine, I realized that maybe my writing (and everything else) would go better if I spent time with God even before I launched into my work. (As my kids say: Uh, duh!)
I was right. My days went better as I sat before God and opened my heart to the truths in His Word. My days went better as I prayed and turned my worries to Him. My days went better as I sat still before God and asked for His priorities.
Soon, my mornings shifted. My priority became spending time with God, not spending time writing. Only then did everything in my life shift, too. As I sought God as my teacher, He lead me to the right paths. Paths of helping to start a crisis pregnancy center, paths the led to my books, and so much more. Today, this is still my habit and my priority. And He still is leading me.
As wonderful as this sounds, developing a Bible reading and prayer habit only happens with intentionality.

Here are the top three things needed for developing a Bible reading and prayer habit:

  1. A time.
  2. A place.
  3. A plan.
A Time: Maybe early mornings don’t work for you. That’s okay. When can you find a time to read your Bible and pray?
A Place: Where is a good place to meet with God? I have a corner on my couch I go to with my Bible, journal, and devotional book. Because my kids are still asleep it’s quiet and comfortable.
A Plan: I’ve had different plans, but the one I’ve stuck to is reading through the Bible in a year. This means reading 4-5 chapters of the Bible a day . I don’t always accomplish reading that much, but it’s still a plan. A plan that I only accomplish 3/4 of the time is far better than no plan at all! Still, your plan doesn’t need to be that complicated. When I started my plan was just to read the Bible for 10 minutes. It was a perfect way to start! It helped me to develop a simple habit, and that was just what I needed to begin. How about you? What plan sounds doable? Remember, any plan is better than no plan to start!

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Scripture to ponder

I will teach you hidden lessons from our past stories we have heard and known, stories our ancestors handed down to us We will not hide these truths from our children; we will tell the next generation about the glorious deeds of the LORD, about his power and his mighty wonders. Psalm 78:2-4 (NLT)

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Mentioned in This Episode

Everything You Need to Know about Homeschooling | Lea Ann Garfias
Praying Through the Bible in a Year | Tricia Goyer

Who is Lea Ann Garfias

Lea Ann Garfias is a homeschool graduate, a homeschooling mother of six, and the author of four books, including three on homeschooling. She and her husband, David, live in Dallas, Texas. Besides author, she holds the titles of professional violinist, French-press owner, and friend.

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How to WIN at doing it all!

How to WIN at doing it all!

It’s the number one question that I’m asked, “How do you do it all?”

Specifically, Macki asked, “I want to know each part of your daily schedule and how you always get SO MUCH done!! It’s truly superhuman.”

People watch me (mostly from afar) and shake their heads. I’ll admit the numbers can seem overwhelming:

I’ve written over 80 books.
I have 10 kids. (And grandkids)
I’ve homeschooled for over 25 years.
I love to make dinner every night and play board games as often as possible!

I’m with you, folks. This math doesn’t add up.

I’m Not Superwoman

First, let me debunk the myth. I’m not a superwoman. That’s good news … because you don’t have to be either. Or a superman if there are some guys listening in.

What it comes down to is one simple thing. I’ve discovered that I get to choose what’s most important. I take decision-making seriously. I decide what needs to get done … and what doesn’t. And those decisions over time add up. They add up to more time to do what I really want. They add up to freedom and they add up to peace. And joy, too.

But the thing is, I’ve had a hard time sharing this message for a few reasons. First, it seems too simple. Second, everyone’s life and situation are different. Third, it’s easy for me to talk about other people’s insights and ideas, but I find it harder to talk about my own.

Just look at my podcast for example. I have over 150 episodes of Walk it Out. And years before that I had an online radio show called Living Inspired with just as many episodes. It’s easy for me to ask questions of others. It’s hard really digging deep and sharing from my heart.

Yet, I realized recently that I’m not giving people what they’re asking for … help, hope, and encouragement from ME. That’s why they visit my website, read my books, and subscript to my newsletter, blogs, and podcast.

So first, I need to apologize for not taking your questions seriously. I also had to look at myself in the mirror and tell myself, “You don’t have to have all the answers, and what you do have to share will be enough. Or, at least, it’ll be better than nothing.

So going back to the #1 question I’m asked, “How do I do it all?”

1. I haven’t always got it right, but … I’ve discovered that I get to choose what’s most important. I GET TO CHOOSE. I get to choose what’s on my calendar and I get to choose what to do first. Also, I get to choose what to spend time on and even what I waste time on. I choose with action. I choose by my actions, too.

2. I choose based on end goals. There are end goals of finished books, graduating my kids from high school, and having adult children who love God and others. Those are the biggies.

There are also end goals of having dinner on the table by 6 pm and folding that load of laundry that’s been tumbled three times. The small goals might bring more peace in my day, but it’s the big goals that really fuel my priorities and my to-do list, and those goals are based on this verse:

I press on toward the goal to win the [heavenly] prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:14 (Amplified)

Am I seeking the heavenly prize? This is a question I ask often. And as I do, I consider my thoughts and actions in light of eternity.

I choose to win:

Wisdom.
Intentionality.
Next Step.

Listen to this week’s podcast to hear how this can work for YOU!

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Scripture to ponder

I press on toward the goal to win the heavenly prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:14 (AMP)

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