You are More than Your Mess with Lindsey Maestas
I don’t know about you, but when when I was a young girl I spent more time dreaming about being a mom than a wife. And when it came to thinking about marriage, I could picture the wedding in my mind, but I didn’t really take the time to think about the type of guy I wanted to marry. This was a big mistake. Because I didn’t set high standards< I didn’t make good choices when it came to the guys I dated.
Instead, I was drawn to handsome jocks who (at first) didn’t give me the time of day. I’d read so many teen romances, I imagined things worked like they did in the book: see the guy of your dreams, transform into the woman of his dreams, get the guy with any method possible, and then rub it in the noses of the other girls who wished they were me. So that how my dating years went. There wasn’t much of a “caring relationship.” Instead, it was “pursuit and pleasure.”
It was only when I was pregnant, hurt, and alone that I started praying for the man God had for me. John was my gift from God, but he wasn’t what I was used to when I came to guys. In fact, I can relate to these words by Lindsey Maestas, today’s guest:
He was honest.
He wrote me a letter early on that said, “Lindsey, whatever you want to know, I will tell you. Whatever you want access to, I will show you. I want you to be able to know everything that you want about my life because I care about you.”
I wasn’t used to honest–I was used to working my way around the lies to find a portion of the truth.
He was kind.
He asked questions about me and truly listened. He took notes and remembered the things in my life that I considered important. He honored me physically and worked hard to know me emotionally.
I wasn’t used to kind. I was used to ‘kind when he felt like it.’
He was available.
He made it clear that I was the only girl he was interested in. He always told me exactly how he felt. He took the time to find cute ways to ask me out on (actual) dates and was always eager and willing to talk to me.
I wasn’t used to available. I was used to craving affirmation from guys who played game after game. I was used to the sinking feeling in my stomach when I called and they didn’t pick up – wondering what they were doing and who they were with.
This honest, kind & available man was the one who God had in store for me the entire time. And yet, I had forced other guys to fit like broken puzzle pieces because I just desperately wanted to be seen and loved.
You can read the rest of Lindsay’s post HERE.
Are you someone whose past messed-ups make marriage hard? Or maybe you have a young daughter, and you’re worried that she’s going to pursue the wrong type of guys in search of romance-novel love? If you answered yes to either of these questions, this episode is for you.
“The more I tried to control my own life/marriage/current situation, the more anxious and depressed I became,” Lindsey says. “I am learning to slow down, choose to intentionally rest in God’s goodness, and stop working or striving for approval or praise.”
Lindsey gets real and opens up by sharing her story of heartache and sexual trauma, as well as her battle with sexual promiscuity as a young woman. She shares her transformation story of how God truly took her story and past heartaches and pains and turned them into something beautiful. You’re going to be blessed today’s show!
Who is Lindsey Maestas?
Lindsey is the host of The Living Easy Podcast where she discusses faith and relationships and strives to remind women that they are more than their ‘mess’. She is also a lifestyle blogger, wife, and mom based in Albuquerque, NM. Her work has been featured in Huffington Post, Relevant Magazine, Faithit, Focus on the Family, Better Homes & Gardens, and more. She speaks vulnerably about the challenges of relationships and real-life while sharing practical wisdom and tips. She loves to read, eat tacos, and binge-watch Netflix with her husband.
Is there a young woman you’d like to encourage? This is a good Instagram post about single ladies and what to look for in a man.
Walk It Out Scripture
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 2 Corinthians 5:17
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