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January 20, 2011 by Tricia Goyer 15 Comments

What I wished I knew about men before I got married.

(And by men I mean I’m focusing on my husband!)

1. Men can’t read your mind. If you “hint” at wanting help, they will not get it. Asking sweetly works much better.

2. Men don’t like to be rushed with problems as soon as they get in the door.

3. Men feel like they’ll fail as a spiritual leader. Sometimes it’s easier not to try than to see disappointment in your spouse’s gaze.

4. Men are visual. Very visual.

5. Men like someone to listen to their dreams. It doesn’t mean they’re going to go out and quit their jobs tomorrow, but a listening ear matters.

6. Men are born wanting to protect the weak and fight for honor, but those emotions rarely have a chance to exhibit themselves in the real world.

7. A good meal and a warm wife can wash away every other care in the world.

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  1. Joanne Sher says

    January 20, 2011 at 2:21 pm

    Amen.

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  2. Amanda Daubenmeyer says

    January 20, 2011 at 3:40 pm

    So true, especially #1!

    I just read your testimony, amazing! It lifted me up. I followed God in writing my first book, and despite the odds piled high against me, He is opening doors. When I think to take it into my own hands, I feel like you did, nothing works and just frustrates and confuses me. Thanks for the reminder to look to God and seek His will.

    Blessings to you and your ministry!

    Reply
  3. Charissa Steyn says

    January 20, 2011 at 4:08 pm

    So true so true!! I love becoming an expert in my husband! He the most lovable amazing caring man in the world…to me 🙂

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  4. Rhonda says

    January 20, 2011 at 7:05 pm

    This is a great list of the true nature of men.

    Being more of a quiet nature…it took me quite a long while to learn that I needed to be really blunt. I no longer depend on my hubby “guessing” what I really want. lol

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  5. Karen Barnett says

    January 20, 2011 at 8:07 pm

    My husband frequently has to remind me about number 4. 🙂

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  6. Restorative Living says

    January 20, 2011 at 8:39 pm

    #1 is so true! We were years into our marriage before my husband made me realize that sweetly reminding him multiple times about something I needed/wanted him to do was not nagging. I thought saying it more than once wasn’t kind to him. Hints and subtlety don’t work!

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  7. Sundi Jo says

    January 20, 2011 at 11:46 pm

    Thanks for posting the advice. I’m single, but can use it. 🙂

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  8. Southern Belle says

    January 21, 2011 at 3:21 am

    So true.

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  9. HoB says

    January 23, 2011 at 8:47 pm

    All are so true! Number 3 breaks my heart it’s so true. I wish churches and older men were better at helping to equip younger men as to how to lead. Not all men are born to lead and it takes a lot of work.

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  10. Laryssa Herbert says

    January 25, 2011 at 9:34 pm

    You made me laugh, you’re so spot on!

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  11. Scott Kuhn says

    January 26, 2011 at 5:18 am

    Just confirming…you are right. As for #1, we often intentionally will not “get” the hint because we want to feel respected enough to be asked. 😉

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  12. Phil says

    January 26, 2011 at 6:12 am

    As a man, I hereby give this post the Men’s Seal of Approval™

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  13. Carrie Fairy Thoughts says

    January 26, 2011 at 7:10 am

    This is such a great blog post. I came across you through twitter. i am going to print this out. I also wanted to say I am a new follower of your blog 🙂 – Thank you! I will try and follow you on twitter too. I am under @carriefairygirl.

    Much Love,

    God Bless

    Carolyn J
    “Carrie”
    http://www.carriefairythoughts.blogspot.com

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  14. Tricia Goyer says

    January 26, 2011 at 11:12 am

    Wow, I’m thankful for the response … especially the Men’s Seal of Approval!

    Reply
  15. Hal says

    January 28, 2011 at 5:00 am

    As a single man, I wish more women understood the implications of number 4 in how they decide to dress – in the workplace and church particularly.

    Reply

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