My husband John is a self-proclaimed computer geek. Do you know what that means? Lots of talk abut cpus, ram, network access, accessibility, blah, blah, blah.
For years hearing him talk about all these things drove me crazy. 1. I didn’t know what he was saying, 2. I didn’t care. I would try to be patient when John talked through a computer issue at work but I’m sure my face spoke the truth.
Then a couple of years ago I started to think differently. First I realized that John processed problems by talking them out. I also realized that when I gave John space to talk it helped him decompress.
Once he got the words out, they were off his mind and he could spend the rest of the time focusing on our family … and me.
The more I started listening (really listening), the more connected John felt toward me and the more time he had for us. I still didn’t understand, the cpu/ibs/abcdefg talk but it didn’t really matter. I was meeting one of my husband’s needs.
Recently, I’ve not only been a patient listener, I’ve been a thankful listener. God has blessed me with a smart, capable, and hard working husband who trusts me and wants to spend time sharing what matters to him. I’m thankful that we have each other to turn to and talk to. I’m thankful that we don’t have to understand each other completely to listen and care.