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January 16, 2010 by Tricia Goyer 6 Comments

Telling Secrets …


I hated the idea of telling anyone my secret, and now I’d have to tell my kids about what I’d done. I didn’t want them to know I started dating when I was thirteen or that I faced my first pregnancy at fifteen. I didn’t want them to know I’d had an abortion, and then found myself pregnant again at seventeen. I especially didn’t want Cory to know his biological father had wanted me to get an abortion or that he dumped me before Cory was born.

I worried that if my kids knew all the horrible stuff I’d done, they’d think they could do the same. Even more, I worried that they’d look at me differently. I’d be devalued in their eyes. They wouldn’t respect me.

God was squeezing me, molding me into a woman willing to put her life and her kids into His hands. But I wished it wasn’t so painful. Instead of them using my mistakes as an excuse for their own sins, the opposite happened. They witnessed my pain, regret, and struggle, and because of that, they developed high standards for themselves. They made positive decisions for their lives, in part because I was truthful about negative ones I made. And the things I wanted to hide forever are the things that showed them that I’m human, that God is big, and that there is nothing we could ever do to separate ourselves from His love.

It’s hard not to pretend we are better than we are. We all want to look good—to ourselves and to others. We want to hide our imperfections. I wanted to hide my mistakes and sins—hide them all. But in the end what my kids needed from me was the truth. The truth of who I was and who I became because of Christ. They needed the truth of how wrong we can all go when left to our own devices. And where God can take us when we depend completely on Him.

Are you carrying your own secrets or have you been able to share them?

Excerpt © Tricia Goyer, Blue Like Play Dough

Filed Under: faith, family, parenting, teens, Tots to Teens


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  1. Andrea says

    January 16, 2010 at 2:03 pm

    Tricia –

    It’s a miracle the way He makes beauty from ashes. Thanks for submitting to Him and being so transparent to us.

    Blessings –

    Andrea
    http://andrealschultz.blogspot.com

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  2. Carla Burke says

    January 16, 2010 at 2:43 pm

    Great post! I have a secret that I’ve kept from my husband for 10 years. I know God has forgiven me and my daily walk with Him helps me to forgive myself. I love how you are so open!
    Carla

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  3. Penny Hull says

    January 16, 2010 at 3:20 pm

    Bless you for walking in the light and bieng transparent.
    Penny

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  4. Bethany from Confessions of an Organized Homeschool Mom says

    January 17, 2010 at 12:15 am

    Thanks for being so open! I’ve got a secret that NO ONE knows here where we live now (except my hubby). I feel guilty harboring it (sometimes!), but I can’t quite bring myself to share it.

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  5. http://forsuchatimeasthis-esther.blogspot.com/ says

    January 17, 2010 at 3:34 am

    Amen! The truth will set you free! Thanks for sharing this.

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  6. Glenn Turner says

    January 18, 2010 at 2:22 pm

    Great post Tricia. I was editing a blog post this morning on a message about self forgiveness and it brought back so many memories. I would give so much to erase some of the past but thank God He brings newness. http://hoteldrawer.blogspot.com/2009/03/how-can-i-forgive-myself.html

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